This morning, as I sat in the café that my daughter works in, I listened to my mind as I sat watching the people walk by. Her café is right downtown and so there are all kinds of "characters", drug-addicts and homeless people. As kind and gentle as I think I am, I was amazed to listen to the constant "assessments" of each person that I was thinking. Hmm... Pink pants and bright green shirt. He's not wearing a shirt and he has his hair in a bun on top of his head. Oh, he's in a wheelchair, poor guy. Well she's not wearing very much. Look at all his muscles... He must be very vain. Oh cute dog. That guy is out of his mind on drugs... Don't look at him. That's a homeless guy. That woman has crazy high heels on. None of my thoughts were particular evil. [...]
So, let's say you have 20 minutes with your favourite spiritual teacher, guru or God. What would you ask them? We often think that we are supposed to ask some great philosophical question that will change the course of our lives. But this isn't true. There are stories about people travelling to the remotest places to find the wise man who can help them find their answers. When they arrive, they ask some grand philosophical question and of course the answer is just as grand, and simple, and not at all the answer that they were looking for. Because they are asking the wrong questions. Your Question Must Come from Your Present Reality This present moment is an eternal moment. Whatever we are dealing with in our lives in this moment is just as profound a challenge as the greatest philosophical problem you can describe. The [...]
Life can be hard sometimes.. like really, really hard. Some believe that it's because of bad luck or just a rotten hand dealt to them. Life is just hard and there's nothing we can do about it. But then, some say that our soul chooses our journey before we come in. We choose our parents (even if they are abusive), we choose our circumstances and everything about who we are here. (This is obviously a really tough philosophy to swallow in many situations.) Personally, I don't know how it works. In fact, I don't even think we are capable of understanding how it works. We can hear ideas that sound like truth to us. Or they make sense. But in truth, we don't know how it works. The question is, how does the philosophy we believe in change how we live? How does it change how much hope we have? The [...]
They say that becoming a parent should come with an owner's manual. But what if we have something better? What if we actually have perfect guidance available to us in every moment, and it's completely unique to the child and situation? My children are now grown - my son is 21 and my daughter is 19. But I still remember staring at each of their little faces when they were born and being in complete awe that they had been "given" to me to raise and be part of my life. With this responsibility came the great fear - what if I screwed up? What if I said the wrong thing? What if I did the wrong thing? What if I transferred my issues and challenges onto them? What if they would be lying on a psychologist's couch one day saying, "Well it's because my mom did this and that....". [...]
As I watched the building being demolished, it reminded me of what it feels like when we need to let go of old "constructs" that are no longer serving us, that we've grown from, or that simply were a part of a past. I share my ponderings as we watch the old being demolished.. making way for something new!
Sometimes life is so hard. We ask ourselves "Why is this happening?".. We wish things were different, or had gone differently.. And there times where we have real "dark nights of the soul" where everything that we once believed doesn't make any sense and we don't know what to do next.. Nothing makes any sense any more. And when we only focus on the physical world, the world of material things, the world of our roles in society, what we are "supposed" to be doing, how we are supposed to feel and how we think/hope/wish things were going, we can end up in real despair.. But what if there is other purpose to these hard times? What if there is a honing of our lives? What if there is something much greater going on? Rumi was a great mystic.. So his desire was to experience the divine in life.. To [...]