Your Question Must Come from Your Present Reality
This present moment is an eternal moment. Whatever we are dealing with in our lives in this moment is just as profound a challenge as the greatest philosophical problem you can describe. The difference is that the philosophy just opens up debate. You will either agree with the wise one, or you will disagree and your mind will be filled with arguments as to why they are wrong.
So, we must ask a REAL question from our REAL life concerning our REAL issues that we are struggling with.
What is REALLY your question right now?
Understand What you really want
The best advice helps us get from point A to point B.
Let’s say that we are lost in the city. We find a friendly stranger and we ask them a philosophical question, “What is the best way to get around the city?” The stranger says, “Well, the subway is quite convenient and inexpensive. A taxi is fun and you get to see the city. Also, walking is pleasant in many areas of the city.”
Hmmm…. Not terribly helpful really.
Instead, we say, “We are lost (state where we are – Point A). We would like to get to the Opera on King Street (state where we want to be – point B). What is the fastest way to get there?
Our friend says, “Oh. I would walk one block that way and hail a taxi. You’ll be there in 10 minutes.”
This is an excellent use of the friendly stranger’s wisdom.
What are Your Three Statements?
OK. Let’s say that you are at a conference where your favourite teacher is speaking – could be the Dalai Lama, Tony Robbins, Gandhi… whomever is YOUR favourite. You win a prize of getting to walk up to the podium and ask a question. Assume that you have to be brief. You don’t need to tell your whole story. You have to get to the point quickly. And don’t worry, these teachers are very intuitive. They don’t need to hear the story. They are tuning into you.
Our Three Statements to Find Wisdom
1) This is my current situation (Point A):
Where are you right now? Where is it that you don’t want to be? What is it about your current life that is bothering you and desiring change? This first question is important because it asks us to admit to ourselves exactly what our current reality is. We tend to tell ourselves stories so that we can keep living in a way that doesn’t work. So, forming this question asks us to let go of the fantasy and state our current reality.
2) This is where I want to be (Point B)
What does your solution look like? What does your soul really want? Look inside and ask yourself what would make you happy.
3) How do I get from Point A to Point B?
Let’s look at some examples. Each example compares the “Philosophical” question that we might ask and the “Personal and Current” question using our “three sentence” format.
Philosophical: “Hi there. What is your opinion on whether people should stay married for life?”
Personal & Current: “I am desperately unhappy in my marriage but was raised that I must stay or else I am a failure. I want to be happy, free and live my own life. What can I do?”
Philosophical: “Hi there. Do you think marijuana should be legalized?”
Personal & Current: “I smoke pot every night because I am so depressed. I want to feel strong, confident and alive again. Should I continue using pot?”
Philosophical: “Do you think it’s natural for humans to be homosexual?”
Personal & Current: “My son just told me he is gay and I’m mortified. I don’t want to lose him because I love him. What do I do?”
Just think how incredibly different the teacher’s response would be in each scenario. And imagine the difference in the impact on your life if you went with the REAL questions that you wanted to ask.
Your teacher/Guru/God is within:
We each have access to the same wisdom within ourselves as these great teachers. We are connected to the same source – the same opportunity to hear guidance on our paths. When we follow these steps, we will find the answers we seek.
So, now let’s do this in meditation.
Sit comfortably in a quiet place. What are your three statements? What is your current reality? What do you wish it looked like? Then ask your question: How do I get from here to there?
Then just breathe deeply and let your mind clear. Your mind might start to discuss it and argue. But picture your favourite teacher or guru sitting at the side of your mind watching you. They are smiling. While everyone else is discussing and debating your options, your teacher has already answered you. You hear the answer almost immediately.
If you don’t think you heard an answer, there is a high probability that you heard it but you didn’t like the answer. So you are waiting for one you like.
Or maybe you just need to do this a few times before you get used to listening inside this way.
This is the path of the mystic
We can ask these questions in every moment of our lives. The answers are always right there. (Not to mention, they are a wonderful reality check if we find ourselves a little (or a lot) lost at times!)
And if you ever find yourself in the presence of a teacher that you trust, always keep it real. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Allow yourself to ask the questions that you truly want to ask.
It could be a trusted friend, a meditation teacher, or anyone who can help. Allow them to connect their intuition to yours.
We are all here to help each other.
We just have to keep it real.